When I’m 25…
In high school, I distinctly remember the thought that ‘When I’m 25’… I’ll have my life figured out. I’ll have all the little boxes of things I desire in life happily checked off, and everything will be perfect. I’ll have finished college, I’ll be married, maybe have a baby or two, have a great job, a cute little house and I’ll be happy. Only shortly into my twenties, I realized that my ‘plans’ probably weren’t going to happen the way I thought at 18. Life looked a lot different than what I had in mind. From a younger, naïve perspective, I thought that people in their 20’s had it all figured out. Certainly, when I reached that age, I would too. Only I keep getting older and am realizing that maybe we never really have it all ‘figured out’. You can probably say the same thing (unless of course you do have it figured out–in which case, fill me in please!!)
It’s like we always want what we don’t yet have. In high school, you can’t wait to finally be in college. In your last year of college, you can’t wait to graduate and land a job. When you’re single, you can’t wait to be dating. When you’re dating, you can’t wait to be married. Then you’re married and can’t wait to have kids. On and on it goes..
It seems we just want to continuously rush on to the next best thing in life. Like the next season will prove to provide something just a smidge better. We stress ourselves out from always wanting things before their due time. God’s timing never seems to be aligned with ours and that is difficult. Why can’t we just have what we want NOW? I’d be a lot happier if I could just have ____. But what if there’s more to it than that? What if there’s more to life than hating the season you’re in, and wanting what you don’t yet have? Maybe it’s more about the journey and less about the destination. Maybe it’s about being HERE, healing HERE, loving HERE, thriving HERE.
Here are my suggestions for you (but really preaching this to myself!)
HOPE with trust for whatever it is you’re desiring. God didn’t place your desires on your heart just to frustrate and taunt you with the thought that they may or may not happen. Whether it’s a relationship, a new job or promotion, or a new house–trust God with your plans. You’ve probably heard that a million times, but it’s true.
Proverbs 3:5-6 TRUST God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track.
WAIT with an expectant heart, knowing you haven’t been forgotten about. Too often we fall into the thinking of “God’s forgotten about me, he must not care. Why does everyone else have what I want except for me?” But listen, be watchful for the lessons God might be trying to teach you in your waiting. Perhaps this is a season of growth and learning for you. He might be working on your heart in ways you don’t yet realize.
Sometimes I think it takes lacking what you so badly desire, in order to understand what God truly desires for you.
Glorify God In The Way You Spend Your Time
Don’t just sit around passing the time, wasting your days away. Look at your current season of life as a gift. There are opportunities present in seasons of waiting, that wouldn’t otherwise be available—take advantage of that. You don’t want to look back on this season of your life and regret how you spent it. Think about it this way—let’s just say life’s ‘no fun’ for you because you’re currently wishing to find ‘the one’ and it hasn’t happened yet. You wouldn’t want your future spouse to be spending their time moping around, hating life, and being stressed that they haven’t met you yet, right? No, wouldn’t you much rather know they were spending their time serving the Lord, growing in their faith, finding joy in each day, and allowing God to prepare their heart for yours? So, become that person you’d be waiting for. How you’re spending your time in this season of life, whatever that may be, will affect the joy you find in the next. Treasure it.
“Waiting patiently is almost impossible unless we are also learning at the same time to find joy in the Lord, commit everything to him, trust Him, and be quiet.”
Slow Down, Let Jesus Set The Pace
“We run at breakneck pace trying to achieve what God simply wants us to slow down enough to receive.” –Lysa TerKeurst.
Slowww Downnn. Okay, that’s easy to say but what does it look like? I think it’s not trying to pursue things before it’s time. Whatever it is you are desiring will fall into place when you’re ready. Don’t cloud your constant thoughts with things of the future. Take a deep breath and look for ways to enjoy what’s happening around you in your present-day situation. Look for ways you might be growing; lessons you might be learning. Don’t rush through each day just to get to the next. Try to take advantage of the opportunities you have now that you maybe didn’t have before. Pray about it. Ask for peace in your circumstances and eyes to see things from a new perspective. Stop wishing today away, and be grateful for it instead.
1 Peter 4:13 (MSG)
Friends, when life gets really difficult, don’t jump to the conclusion that God isn’t on the job. Instead, be glad that you are in the very thick of what Christ experienced. This is a spiritual refining process, with GLORY JUST AROUND THE CORNER (emphasis added, because I love that statement).
I challenge you this week to take a few moments and reflect on your life right now. How much of your current season are you truly enjoying? Are you constantly frustrated that things aren’t working out for you, wishing you could have what you want instead? Take a step back and focus on the things we just talked about. Shift your perspective a smidge and see what joy you can find in THIS moment, THIS day, and THIS season. Savor it, friends. You’ll look back and be glad you did!